The Burden of a Forgetful New Year

January is almost through. How are you doing on those New Year’s resolutions?  Passing with flying colors?  Failing miserably?  Or somewhere in between perhaps? Me, I rarely ever make resolutions for myself. It’s just too much for me.  You see, I tend to be a do-er.  And a do-er with an unrelenting compulsion to complete […]

Single Parents

I recently talked to a young adult single mother. She was beautiful and so was her baby.  On the surface things seemed just fine, until she started to open up. She explained how she is struggling financially to make ends meet; to pay for her apartment, college, and the associated costs of having a baby. Her […]

Roots of Anger: Feeling Wounded by Others

Beneath our overt angry expressions are deeper roots of emotional pain which feed the hostility. In the last blog, I identified four roots, including: hurt, helplessness, anxiety about losing something important, and guilt. In this blog, we will explore anger that is triggered by relational wounds. Psychological researchers have demonstrated that emotional hurt is a […]

You Are Special

As this year comes to a close, I think of the most important thing we can teach our children. It is important to constantly remind them that they are special, and are uniquely and wonderfully made. We tell our son that we love him just about every day, and most days more than once. This […]

‘Tis the Season to Fall in Love

‘Tis the season.  The season to ‘put Christ back in Christmas’ or ‘make your holly Christmas holy’ or some other cliché, play on words phrase that entices you to make the holiday more ‘Christian’. We hear about how to incorporate our children in: acting out the nativity story, implementing a Jesse tree, playing hide and […]

Understanding Millennials

There are varying positive and negative opinions on Millennials, with lots of studies done, but I’m going to try to sum up my experience, thoughts and research on this generation of great potential. Millennials are individuals born between 1980 and 2000.  Earlier this year, Pew Research said that they are now America’s largest generation (over […]

The Roots of Anger

You might know that anger is a biochemical response to a perceived threat. When you are faced with a potentially threatening situation, your brain and autonomic nervous system immediately require an increase in adrenalin.  This produces a cardiovascular surge preparing you for a “fight or flight” response. You can feel various sensations in your body […]

What Are You Thankful For?

Thanksgiving has come and gone, but what makes you thankful? Let us look at the history of this special day. In September of 1620, a small ship called the Mayflower left Plymouth, England, carrying 102 passengers, so that they could freely practice their faith, or the promise of land ownership and prosperity in the New […]

Parenting Resources

Instead of my normal parenting blog, I thought it would be good to highlight some great resources for parents and churches.  They are the below.  I hope you find them enjoyable and valuable. Axis Their mission is to empower the next generation to think clearly and critically about what they believe and to take […]

Inappropriate Behavior Results in Undesirable Consequences

In previous blogs, we have discussed adjusting parental attitudes and applying appropriate approaches when relating to inflexible-explosive children.  Remember to stay calm.  Note that the initial goal is to help the child regulate emotions to prevent a meltdown.  Be aware of antecedent events and pay attention to the situational factors that trigger “vapor lock”.  Make […]