Parenting Toward the 30% – Listening Well

Karen LeamanThis was one of those times when we learned from a great theologian, our three year old.

The life of our three year old had just been changed dramatically.  We had just moved from a smaller house in the city, to a larger house in the country.  Sleeping in a new room disrupted his young life, and it was scary.  In the middle of one night, he woke up from a dream, and asked us if we had called out his name.  We were very tired and didn’t appreciate the disruption.  We told him that we did not call him, and to go back to sleep.  This happened a few more times, and we kept telling him to go back to bed and go to sleep; raising our voices a little higher each time.

We woke up tired, and rushed to work; not even giving it a second thought or talking to our son about it.  Later when we thought about it, it reminded us of 1 Samuel 3:1-10.  This is where Samuel was a boy and God was calling him at night, but Samuel thought it was Eli.  After a few times of Samuel running to Eli, Eli thought it might be God calling Samuel.  Eli told Samuel to say “Speak for your servant is listening.”  Samuel got to hear God that night.  We are not sure that God was trying to speak to our son, probably not, but the point is that we didn’t take the time to listen to our son.

Do you know when the Lord is speaking to you?  One common habit of ours is we speak first and listen later, if we listen at all.  We tend to go about our day, not listening for God’s still small voice.  We also tend to rush around accomplishing what we want to accomplish, when and how we want to accomplish it, with little time to truly listen to our children.

Loving our family well requires great listening skills.  This means not only taking the time to listen to our children, but also listening to the Lord.  The Lord loved us so much that He sent his son to die on a cross so that we could live (John 3:16).  Let’s go to our heavenly Father first.  He truly listens well, and can be our example of how we ought to listen to God or our children.

Listening well to God opens us up to listening to our children…

“Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry.” James 1:19

“Those who accept my commandments and obey them are the ones who love me. And because they love me, my Father will love them. And I will love them and reveal myself to each of them.” John 14:21

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Karen Leaman

Karen Leaman

Karen Leaman has a passion for students, and for over 25 years has been volunteering within churches, leading and mentoring students.

Karen, and her husband Ken, have been married for 26 years, and have a 25 year old son.  They live in McKInney, TX, just North of Dallas.

As Karen and Ken, repeatedly witnessed many Christian students who were active within the Church walk away from their faith shortly after graduating high school, they grew frustrated.  Studies show that about 70% of young adults leave their faith after graduation, which is a huge issue since they are the future of the Church.  After much prayer and searching God's direction for many years, the Leaman's felt His calling to start a ministry to address this problem.  In 2014, they gathered like minded Christian professionals to help begin Young Adults of Worth Ministries.  We believe that this ministry is from God, and it will be blessed by Him for His glory alone.