Anger

Getting upset is very easy. Controlling our emotions is very hard, especially when parenting.

We are all born with a sin nature; one that doesn’t want to obey. We want what we want, when we want it, and how we want it. Our sin nature makes us impatient, selfish, greedy, and it makes us covet what others have.

If you are a parent, grand parent, or have been around very young children, you know that children never have to be taught how to sin. Instead they have to learn self control, obedience, kindness, patience, how to share and play well with others.

“The human heart is the most deceitful of all things, and desperately wicked. Who really knows how bad it is? Jeremiah 17:9 NLT

When our children misbehave, it can make us upset and sometimes very angry. Anger is and of itself is not always wrong or sinful.

Jesus got angry when he forced the money changers out of the temple. In fact here are the things that Jesus got angry about:

  • Hypocrisy (Matthew 23:13-36)
  • Greed (John 2:13-16)
  • Lukewarm Living (Revelation 3:14-22)
  • Hard Heartedness (Mark 3:5)
  • Superiority (Matthew 23:1-7)
  • Spiritual Pride (Luke 18:9-14)

So since we know that Jesus never sinned, getting anger isn’t sinful in and of itself. God warns us about letting anger control us.

And “don’t sin by letting anger control you. Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry, for anger gives a foothold to the devil. Ephesians 4:26-27 NLT

Anger can lead to sin, because it can cause us to do, say or think evil things. So when our children sin, we sometimes allow our angry to cause us to sin.

I think the best advice for anger is found in James.

Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry. Human anger does not produce the righteousness God desires. So get rid of all the filth and evil in your lives, and humbly accept the word God has planted in your hearts, for it has the power to save your souls. James 1:19 NLT

The solution to sinful anger is to be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry. We must also not have filth and evil in our lives, and we should humbly accept God’s word. We must be reading and memorizing scripture, so that in times of anger, we can resist sinning.

Talk to your children today about anger. Show them the things that angered Jesus, and compare them to the things we often get angry about. Discuss God’s advice for avoiding sin when we are angry. If you have sinned in the past while angry, ask forgiveness from your children. That will be a good model for how they are to seek forgiveness when they sin in their anger.

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Ken Leaman

Ken Leaman

Ken Leaman has a passion for students, and for over 25 years has been volunteering within churches, leading and mentoring students.  These churches are:

Ken is a Director of Enterprise Data Management at IHS Markit, which is a multi-Billion dollar information company. Ken has also served on the board of another non-profit called DFW HDI, which is a membership organization of IT support professionals.  

Ken, and his wife Karen, have been married for 26 years, and have a 25 year old son.  They live in McKinney, TX, just North of Dallas.

As Ken and Karen repeatedly witnessed many Christian students who were active within the Church walk away from their faith shortly after graduating high school, they grew frustrated.  Studies show that about 70% of young adults leave their faith after graduation, which is a huge issue since they are the future of the Church.  After much prayer and searching God's direction for many years, the Leaman's felt His calling to start a ministry to address this problem.  In 2014, they gathered like minded Christian professionals to help begin Young Adults of Worth Ministries.  We believe that this ministry is from God, and it will be blessed by Him for His glory alone.